“Fatherhood is a very natural thing; it’s not something that shakes up my life but rather enriches it.”
~ Andrea Bocelli
Today’s culture is making it easier and easier to be a “father.” While children continue to be neglected, research is showing that there is an incline in the number of fathers who are actively participating in the lives of children. Moreover, there has been a significant “…increase in programs designed to promote involved and responsible fatherhood.” (Perry, 2012, Online)
As a father, I have discovered my lifelong calling is, “fatherhood.” Fatherhood is essentially the willingness to treat with protective care and in a nurturing manner. It is fatherhood that allows the male in the relationship to join together with his partner and become “the father”. A father is more than having the ability to impregnate a women, rather a father is the person who provides support, care, and an unconditional environment.
As men, we are not equipped to bear children, yet we are naturally designed to be fathers. It is recognizing and accepting the role of fatherhood, that enables a man to begin becoming a father. Our limitations, reservations, and fears of fatherhood, are frequently the uncertainties and insecurities associated with failure . What if I fail as a father? So what, pull yourself up by your bootstraps and move forward. Do not hesitate or fear asking for advice. Asking for advice is not an indication that you are weak, rather that you are strong in your willingness to ask for help.
After all, fatherhood is the greatest education a man can ever receive. As a father, you not only have an opportunity to learn more about yourself, but about the world around you. A child’s constant questioning and inquiry of life, offers a father an unique opportunity and the privilege for growth.
ACTIVE LISTENING
“It is a wise father that knows his own child.”
~ William Shakespeare
As a father, we need to actively listen. Active listening is the ability, the skill, technique, or an inherent trait whereby, a person is purposefully and intentionally focusing on the communications being sent by another person or persons. An active listener not only listens and receives an intended message, but is capable of paraphrasing what messages he or she has received back to the communicator. An active listener recognizes that not all communication is verbally spoken, but is often communicated through verbal and nonverbal transmissions. It entails good physical posture, gestures, and purposeful eye contact.
*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA