An Intimate Relationship

Posted by: Maritza Rodriguez on May 3, 2011 10:01 am

The counsellor/client relationship might just be one of the most intimate connections you will ever experience. Counselling provides a safe space to discuss you inner most thoughts and secrets without judgment. It allows you to process, work through issues, and discuss fears and blocks with another human being. You can be vulnerable without the fear of being exposed. Not many relationships allow you to be who you are without demanding anything in return.

That being said, it is important to find the right counsellor for you. As with any other relationship, you must feel comfortable with your counsellor or psychotherapist and be aware of the connection with him or her. That is a very personal experience and every person has their own method of bonding with others. Much of that connection is intuitive in nature. You “feel” this relationship is right and/or you “feel” that you connect positively with the counsellor. The rapport is highly personal and you should follow your “gut instinct” when choosing a professional counsellor.

Some questions to ask yourself when choosing a psychotherapist or counsellor are: Does he or she empathize with what I am saying and experiencing? Do I feel he is really listening and hearing what I have to say? Does she care about me without being overly involved in my situation? Do I feel comfortable with this person?

The powerful relationship between the counsellor and the client involves responsibility on both sides. Thus, the client must be fully involved in choosing the counsellor that best suits him or her at the moment for the particular challenge or situation. Only the client can discern the best decision for himself. And when the decision has been made, the personal knowledge and transformation that can transpire during counselling can be awe inspiring.




*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA

Practical Questions to Ask Yourself When Searching for a Counsellor

Posted by: Debbie Grove on April 26, 2011 9:54 am

Finding a counsellor who is a good fit can be a challenge, especially for someone who is seeking counselling services for the first time. Below I provide some helpful questions to ask yourself before you begin. My hope is to empower readers with information they can use when searching the Internet for services and when booking an appointment on the phone.

How Can I Fit Counselling into My Schedule?

Since life tends to be busy with multiple roles and responsibilities, the more convenient counselling is, the more likely one is to stick with it. I call this being ‘practical.’ In other words, once you narrow down your selection to a few counsellors in your area, find out if they offer evening and weekend hours. Does their schedule work with yours? Is there ample parking? Do they offer a sliding scale based on income? The idea is to not add more stress to your life. Giving some thought in advance to how you will fit counselling into your weekly routine helps make counselling manageable from the start.

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*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA

Where To Start When Looking For A Counsellor

Posted by: Maritza Rodriguez on April 15, 2011 9:52 am

Finding the right counsellor or psychotherapist can be a daunting chore. What criteria are important when choosing through the extensive list of professionals that call themselves counsellors? First, a counsellor’s level of education is the first standard to investigate. A professional counsellor should have a minimum of a Master’s Degree. It can be a Master in Arts or a Master in Education, depending on the focus of their curriculum when they were at university. Why is a graduate degree important when looking for a qualified counsellor? The graduate program prepares the psychotherapist with a foundation of knowledge and skills that enables him or her to provide appropriate treatment and to establish a therapeutic relationship that is the catalyst for change. Additionally, each counseling student goes through a practicum in which they learn and actually counsel under the supervision of a qualified mentor. This internship is essential in implementing the skills and knowledge acquired and actually learning the art and science behind counseling. Valuable feedback and critique that is received during this practical experience is the cornerstone toward preparing a qualified psychotherapist.

Another helpful factor in choosing a counsellor is to find out if they are a Canadian Certified Counsellor and have the credentials CCC after their name. The certification ensures that the professional organization, Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association, has thoroughly screened the education and background of the professional and they meet the minimum standards as a qualified counsellor. It also means that the counsellor must follow an established code of ethics, continue their education to stay current with new research findings and scholarly practices and adhere to a professional standard of conduct. These standards of professionalism in the field are a good starting point.




*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA

Essentials of The Therapeutic Relationship

Posted by: Maritza Rodriguez on April 1, 2011 9:23 am

The therapeutic relationship is unique in that for many clients, it is the first intimate connection they have had with another person where profound feelings, beliefs and thoughts are exposed. Counselling should provide the client with an open and safe setting that emphasizes self-exploration and change without the client feeling the need to censor or conform.

There are three important qualities a client should look for when seeking a therapist that Carl Rogers emphasized: empathy, genuineness and respect. Empathy is the ability to identify with and understand the client’s situation, feelings and motives. It provides the foundation for a therapeutic relationship because it establishes the personal connection. Traits of genuineness include being open, honest, and sincere and an absence of defensiveness and phoniness. This allows the client to be at ease and increases the opportunity for valuable inquiry and awareness. Respect establishes the safety that is essential in a counseling relationship.  By accepting the client as a whole, including strengths and weaknesses, an environment has been established where profound issues can be brought to the surface for examination and transformation.

The client-therapist relationship is essential to establishing a successful outcome by promoting willingness for the client to share and engage with the counsellor. This promotes increased propensity toward self awareness and change in behavior, thoughts and beliefs. It is also important that counseling remain client focused by discussing and defining the goals of the client, rather than the counsellor imposing their own mandates and judgments. This further reinforces the vital characteristics of a positive helping alliance: empathy, genuineness and respect.




*The views expressed by our authors are personal opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of the CCPA